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Flagging New Year Resolutions? Use NLP to Get Them Going Again!

With the month of January always comes a vast wave of people who want help with their new years resolutions, so many people use this time of year as a fresh leaf with a fresh period of time, by February, the momentum is often lost. I personally enjoy and like making changes and I like helping others make changes, so for those of you who have made resolutions, here’s a quick & easy guide to making them more quickly & easily than ever before.

1) Accept the reality of the current situation. Accept yourself exactly as you are.

One of the presuppositions of NLP is that every behaviour has a positive intention. By accepting the reality of the current situation, you get an accurate starting point for making a change. If you want to change yourself in some way, acceptance is a big accelerator. When you accept yourself exactly as you are, you meet yourself at your own map of the world & get rapport with your own unconscious mind. You are then in a far better position for creating some amazing change on your own terms.

2) Get a vivid, sensory rich idea on how you want it to be.

Figure out what you want, & state it in the positive. For example “I want to achieve and maintain the size shape and weight that pleases” not “I want to lose some weight”). Your unconscious mind treats negative and positive the same GPS навигатор Garmin when it learns, they aren’t processed by your nervous system in the same way that they are when you speak them, for example; The command “Don’t think of a pink elephant” is difficult to obey, in order not to do it, you have to do it! When someone says “I want to stop smoking” you have to imagine smoking to understand the sentence. Stating that you are “becoming a non-smoker” is more progressive. Also, vividly imagine what you will see, hear & feel when you’re getting what you want. When you do that, куда пропали друзья? turn the brightness and colours up in your imagination, make the sounds louder and turn up the wonderful feelings that go with it. Then BELIEVE in that which you want. View that which you want like you just know it is going to happen, view it with the idea that you deserve it and be playful and humorous with it, in other words not serious about it.

3) Get fired up!

If you’re going to invest your valuable time & energy on doing something, you’d better have a good reason, so what are the reasons you want to achieve this goal? What will it get for you? How will it help you? What will it make possible for you? Allow yourself to really explore all the benefits you’re going to get from making this change, & how good that will make you feel. The more you drive yourself Breath Point 3503B-600 to get fired up, enthusiastic and motivated about it, the more it is a successful inevitability.

4) Let go of your goal. Detach from the outcome.

When you really really really really want something, your system tenses up, & it
becomes more difficult to get it. Instead, find a way to become OK with the idea of not getting it. This maintains a sense of relaxation & acceptance while you’re moving towards your goal. Imagine your goal as actual “thing” and imagine letting go of it, cut the ties that bind it to you and let it happen unconsciously without you having to continuously engage in conscious thought processes about it. Get in touch with me if you need more information on “letting go.”

5) Generate the behaviours that will help you get what you want.

Think about new behaviours that you will need in order to succeed. Then think about the outcome, that’s right, think about having achieved the outcome. Then if that outcome is as you want, imagine stepping into that version of you in your mind; see through those eyes, hear through those ears, feel those feelings and really acquaint your conscious and unconscious minds about what it will be like when you have achieved that. Then just allow your unconscious mind to deliver it without making too many conscious moves towards the outcome. Let it happen.

6) Celebrate your successes!

For those that know me, I like to celebrate (with fun and laughter mostly). People need to celebrate more, so celebrate your successes. Not just the big goal, but every milestone along the way. If you want to slim down, celebrate every few pounds lost (with something that supports you, like new clothing, not chocolates.) If you want to be a healthy non-smoker, celebrate your first day smoke-free, then your first week, first month etc. If you want to learn yoga, celebrate going to your first class, sticking with it for a month etc. Find things to celebrate & then do it – celebration sends a strong “You’re doing the right thing” message to your brain, & makes it easier & more enjoyable to do more of it.

In my experience there are several factors that can prevent people from getting what they want in their lives, in whatever areas and one of the main things I touched on earlier and I am going to write about here today and that is; Belief. So many people that I come into contact with have a lack of belief and/or limiting beliefs in their lives, often it is taken for granted or just plain unnoticed.

Be aware of this sentence;

whatever we believe to be the truth is the Каролина Куркова truth for us. Really think about that.

So imagine someone, a regular member of Joe Public (is there such a thing?), I am not even talking about someone who berates or criticises themself, that someone steps out of the shower, sees their reflection in the mirror and thinks and believes “I am overweight.” Lo and behold, they become and perpetuate what they believe themself to be.

Beliefs are so powerful, that we sometimes don’t remember that they’re not necessarily ‘true’. If we believe certain things about ourselves, we limit Elica CORALLO LUX A/90 GOF ourselves to the limit of our beliefs. Imagine stepping outside of your map of the world and have a shot at altering your beliefs and see how they can change the way you view your life and your world. FOllow these simple instructions to assist in doing this;

1) Write yourself a list Sony KDL-32V2500 of 3 beliefs which have been limiting you.

Sometimes, just the process of writing them down can allow you to begin to realise that they are not really true. As you look at these beliefs, you may become aware that, at one point in time, they were useful for helping you make sense of the world. But perhaps they’ve passed their use-by date now.

2) Underneath the list, write the heading ‘Evidence’. Start to find evidence that these beliefs are false (get a friend to help you if you need to.) When evidence is presented, leave decision & judgement to one side. Nokia E66 Just write the evidence on the evidence list.

This naturally creates a vacuum, so begin to think about what sort of beliefs you’d like to have instead of these.

3) Write a list of 3 useful, empowering beliefs that will help you achieve your goal (or that you’d just like to believe.) Remember to state them in the positive.

4) Write ‘Evidence’ under this list, and start to find evidence that these beliefs are true. When evidence is presented, leave decision & judgement to one side. Just write the evidence on the evidence list.

I sometimes do a training exercise where I get people to shake hands with the other trainees

a) while imagining that the person they are shaking hands with is going to be difficult to deal with, and then b) while imagining that the person they are shaking hands with is a great TOYOTA RA 224 friend who will help them in many ways. The difference is always profound and it demonstrates (among other things) that what you are thinking changes the signals you give off. Someone once asked “So, are you suggesting we tell ourselves lies?” “Not quite”, I said. “I’m suggesting that you change the lousy lies you are telling yourself to good ones, which support you.”

Milton Erickson, an extraordinary Samsung M300 communicator and patron saint of NLP used to say “You can pretend anything and master it.” So…

5) Pretend that the new positive beliefs are true.

Pretending is a big part of how Robert Deniro gets into role, how Jimi Hendrix learned to be so good at guitar, and how you learned to walk. It’s also part of how Richard Bandler and John Grinder developed NLP, but that’s another story.

Pretend until the pretence starts to seem real. While NLP has many new approaches for structured belief change, this approach has been used slv8-hptb5 throughout history, is lots of fun and, best of all, you already know how to do it!

You know, imagine creating new beliefs and then wearing them like they are a pair of spectacles through which you view the world. Try on new beliefs and view the world and your life through that belief and see, hear and feel how different the world can be when you alter beliefs.

So, to summarise;

With regard to a goal (or just in general)…

Write a list of 3 beliefs which have been limiting you. Find evidence that these beliefs are false. Write a list of 3 useful, empowering beliefs that will help you achieve your goal (or that you’d just like to believe.) Find evidence that these beliefs are true. Pretend that the new positive beliefs are true.

Copyright Adam Eason 2005. All rights reserved.

Improve Your Life by Learning to Use What you Have

Imagine for a moment that wherever you went, whatever you did, people kept telling you, you could improve.

Driving the car Smeg KD 6 X and МФУ Hewlett Packard when you arrive at your destination this person sits up in the back seat and says,” You need to improve the use of your rear view mirror”.

Sitting on a train commuting to and from work and as you get off the train a person says, “You have to work more on your eye contact”.

Walking in the street and just actresssex as you reach a department store a person says, “In my opinion you don’t pay enough attention to what is going on around you and you never say good morning to anyone”.

Get the idea? You would soon be on the floor afraid to move, afraid Микроволновые печи Rolsen to assert yourself in any way whatsoever.

Why is it that we have to keep people down and keep them focussing on their weaknesses? Why are we so obsessed with mediocrity?

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